- Michelle Garcia
Why We Resist Change
Change is inevitable, we’ve probably all heard that phrase. Yet when faced with adversity, we put up a fight. So this is why we resist change.
I know people who are perfectly okay to move three times in eight months, and others who haven’t left a five-mile radius in 60 years. There are those that will stay in a job they loathe rather than put themselves out there and do a job they love. How many people do you know who will stay in a marriage that is unhealthy because they don’t want anything to change or upset anyone involved?
We are in constant fluctuation and movement in life, yet sometimes we want it to stop. Your children will grow up and leave the house whether you want that to happen or not. You will change as you age, hopefully for the better. The job you work at year after year will change. It happens all around us, yet we fight it.
There is a ripple effect when a change occurs. It doesn’t just affect the person involved, but everyone and everything surrounding it. When you change your job, it doesn’t just affect you, but what about your spouse, friends, family?
There are times when we absolutely despise when things get moved around and changed. I challenge you to think about the areas of your life that feel stuck, or that you would like to be different. And so this is why we resist change.
Think about it. You wish you could…fill in the blank. I’m not talking about winning a million dollars. But if there is one area of your life that you wish you could change, what would it be?
I want you to ask yourself these questions:
• What steps do you need to take to make this happen for yourself?
• Do you feel this is attainable?
• Are you working on this change now? If not, why?
I know there are times in my life when I get stuck on something, and I have to ask myself, if I want “so-and-so” why am I not doing it? After examining it, I usually realize it’s my fear of change. I don’t like to upset anyone, or ruffle anyone’s feathers. That’s no way to live a fulfilling life if I’m not asking for what I want out of this life.
So I’ve learned to be comfortable with change. I’ve learned to embrace when things don’t turn out the way I had hoped; I work hard so that they eventually will.
I would challenge you to examine what it is you are resisting in your life. Ask yourself why, and see if you can create the change necessary for your life.
If we don’t step out of our comfort zone and ask for what we want, how can we ever expect to achieve it? Let go of whatever is holding you back and take that first step towards making a change that will make your life better.